Mom turned 90 in July. She has moderate dementia. When my grandfather was about the same age, I remember Mom telling me that taking care of him was like taking care of a child without the joy. I totally get it now.
Three years ago when the frustration of taking care of her reached its tipping point, I needed something that would, as Bob Marley says, “Lively up yourself and don’t be no drag.” Here’s what I did.
I looked for Joy every day. That’s right, Joy with a capital “J” – like a person’s name. The first day I looked for Joy, Ted emptied the dishwasher on his own (without me asking) and didn’t even tell me about it. I discovered it on my own and was…well…joyful.
When I got to work that day, all the wallpaper books were lined up by type, brand, color and size – joyful to look at and easy for clients to use.
Then driving home, someone waved me through a busy intersection with a smile. Chalk up another Joy – I was only looking for one a day. I got three! I looked for Joy the next day and noticed little Joys just waiting to be discovered – and I’ve been doing this every day since.
So why am I telling you this? This is a “how to grow your business” website, after all. Here’s the thing. Once I started finding my Joys, everything got better. I mean everything. I was happier. My family life was happier. Because I was happier, I was more productive. Because I was more productive, I made more money – joyfully! Just that one little shift in my brain made all the difference.
How about you?
This week is Thanksgiving, and it’s easy this time of year to remember what we’re grateful for. But it’s tougher to remember to do this the rest of the year. So I challenge you to find your Joy in Every Day yourself and then post it on Face Book and share your Joy with your circle.
You’ll be better off, your business will be better off, and maybe…just maybe…you’ll help somebody else to find their Joy.
My Joy today?
Mom’s in a lovely group home where she’s getting the care she needs, the kindness from those who understand the disease, and the respect and dignity she deserves. So when I visit her now we both can really enjoy our time together.